So true. Also, this is probably a "me" problem not a "he" problem, but years ago before I met my husband I always felt very self-conscious dating someone who spent all his time at the gym and had better abs than I did. Like he was judging me for not working out enough, even when he (probably) wasn't. We can thank media depictions of a perfect human physique as being ripped with abs of steel. I always preferred a guy with a little bit of pudge like me.